'Counselling for Loss and Grief\r'

'3000 WORD ESSAY ON LOSS AND GRIEF †ELIZABETH KUBLER ROSS AND J W WORDEN . Elizabeth Kubler Ross 1926-2004. â€Å" The close to beautiful nation we prolong cognize argon those who have known defeat ,known suffering ,known handout ,and have found their way out of the depths . These people have an appreciation ,a sensitivity ,and an judgement of spiritedness that fills them with compassion ,gentleness ,and a deep loving equal . -Beautiful people do not just expire â€Elizabeth Kubler Ross ‘ Elizabeth had a unique childhood she was one of ternion girls born in Zurich Switzerland on July 8th 1926 ,her re maturate Emmy Villiger Kubler closely attended to all their physical demand as they were all extremely small at birth .Elizabeth’s childhood treatment by her father was said to be very bumpy ,which might explain wherefore she was concerned by peoples suffering ,and her experiences at the end of the second valet war including the aftermath of Majdanek â €concentration camp in Poland ,and very soon after she was well known for her figure out with the terminally ill and her ideas soon came in to counselling and support for people executioned by remainder and bereavement .She challenged antecedent conservative theories ,and was welcomed by carers ,and the end and bereaved as m any(prenominal) occidental people saw death as a taboo subject where as other cultures did not see death as such(prenominal) a taboo . Critics have tended to appauled her shape as obtuse and others have had mixed responses to her interest in the after life ,and her study of Thanatollog which is a Greek prevail for death and means the study of death and dying .She has written over twenty books and her book in 1969 called death and dying was revolutionary as it did glisten her bold and unspoken approach . It was Elizabeth’s work with dying individuals which led her to develop a cardinal format model for coping with terminal unhealthiness , th e five stages are â€denial , pettishness,bargaining ,depression and borrowing . immediately many professionals have adapted this model . her model does imply that all dying people go by the stages and in the same consecrate and acceptance is an essential part of the appendage.She overly conclude in her theory that women are more likely to go through the five stages of sorrow than men , further most people go through at least two . First there testament be the initial rape of the news ,and a somebody may not show any physical symptoms at this stage as internally they have frozen the news out and have not yet taken a turn over of what has happened , telling a mortal several times helps ,external symptoms deal be paling of he skin ,shortness of breath and fight or flight reaction. afterwards the initial shock a person may be in denial this is where a person may close their eye s to what is world told to them and pretend nothing has happened ,they forget continue t o persist on doing their job , and classic behaviour pull up stakes be â€Å" flight in to health â€Å" where previous problems are suddenly seen as fixed by themselves ,they are trying to avoid the inevitable .Getting stuck in denial is common in â€Å" cool â€Å" cultures ,ie Britian . A person can suddenly swing into provoke ,bottled up feelings can come up and â€Å" why me” may be repeated in their heads and â€Å" why not you â€Å" fuels the anger even more ,supporting the anger and accepting it helps the person and just letting them be angry ,and also channelling the anger in to profitable channels with help .After the fires of anger have been burned out the next stage is bargaining , it is an formula of hope that the bad news is reversible , this is a time when false hope should not be given though ,and support instead . picture is when the news now crop ups to sink in and the person slumps in to a slough of despond , they turn towards themselves and turn away from help , and may start blaming themselves not others or the situation .Finally the person is spur to reality when they are at the acceptance stage , this is where the person is ready to move on ,acceptance is perceptible by people taking ownership for themselves once again and their own actions , in this stage many will appear more content as they view their way forward in life again , people at this stage are at the completion of the transition. Elizabeth did not wish her process to beat rigid steps , she intended it to be a framework , a guide as such ,as some steps may not be visited ,and others may be revisited ,as people s experiences of grief and trauma are all individual .Elizabeth also recognized that people have to pass through their own grief journey in order for acceptance to happen and enable them to cope , having an understanding of what is happening and our emotions makes dealing with it much easier. The mourning process may last for months or years ,intense symptoms of emotional distress generally lasts between six and xii months ,however if morning is not complete growth ,and culture can not take place and complications can develop .Similar reactions can be observed in people confronted with far less trauma than death and bereavement, such as crime , relocation ,disability ,injury ,breakups ,so it is a model that can not only be for people suffering with death and dying scarce also trauma ,as trauma and emotional shock are relative in terms of effect on people , life challenges cause akin(predicate) emotional upset , but one persons individualized trauma will not be other person’s personal trauma .\r\n'